Question to ask during speed dating
Also, I think it would be in your best interest to relax and wait for him to propose marriage to you. Aside from him probably feeling insulted by the gesture, can you imagine if he did go for it?Every time you have an argument he’d think back to how he felt coerced into marriage and pressured by you. If you get impatient, it’s going to block your ability to be empathetic and understanding towards him.But for me, that would be the determining factor for when I tie the knot.Now, I’m going to give you a viewpoint that many guys think about and fear.Most guys have heard enough horror stories to know that tying the knot isn’t going to make a woman any less likely to cheat or leave, so there’s a general attitude that it’s not to our advantage to risk half of our income on the chance that everything works out.(Quick insert here: I’ve gotten LOTS of comments that there are many marriages where the woman makes more money than the man and she ends up getting financially screwed.I’ve always felt that if the relationship is working well and both people are happy, marriage is just a title.But that title has a risk attached to it (and thanks to “horror stories”, the news, movies, media, etc.
When you can understand why a guy might have reservations to getting married (or at least, might not be motivated to get married), it will help you communicate better and ultimately get you to a place where you may both decide it’s time for marriage. That’s just my personal view and I’m not suggesting or projecting that anyone else should share it.
I tend to be a risk-averse guy, so I’m not in hurry to get married.
All the nice parts of marriage sound nice to me, but the prospect of divorce sounds awful…
I’ve met plenty of women who are in a hurry to get married.
And I understand the reasons: biological clock, all your friends are married, you feel like “it’s time”, you want to have final commitment, etc.