Negative effect of online dating
The online realm isnt a different world; its a make-up of real people with real feelings.
The only difference is that its easier to lie about who we are because it isnt seen as a lie, its seen as protection.
This woman, though she wanted to believe that her lover was a man, was still worried that he might have lied about his gender and they were in a very serious relationship.
A couple that has been dating for years in the real world dont question basic information such as gender therefore there cant possibly be any trust in online relationship: A disadvantage of online dating is deception (Barnes 139).
This lack of accountability, for some, turns the online world into pure fantasy.
In an article by Susan Barnes the appeal of online dating is defined as fantasy: People can fall in love with the idea of love and project a fantasy image on others (Barnes 139).
Barnes is not saying that online daters are desperate (the same thing happens off the net) but she is saying that the fantasy is more likely to happen.
For example, when filling out a profile for an online dating service most daters will exaggerate their positive attributes to make them more dateable (just as the woman above did).
This dual personality leads to trust issues in online relationships.
This statement, based on the womans statement above, does not pertain to online relationships; couples can be dating for years online without completely trusting each other. Im just hoping that face-to-face I can find a way to spend some time being the online me (Turkle 179).
The reason that so many people are hesitant to put their complete trust into an online relationship is because numerous people exaggerate or lie about who they are: I would say I feel more like myself. Even if the changes are small, such as acting more outgoing, theyre still not completely honest.