Dilbert on dating and marriage who is tom wisdom dating
The culture would tell one of them that they were wrong, just like someone who wants to make the other live in a 10 degree frozen house is wrong, that person would grudgingly agree, they would stay together, and that would be that.The problem only comes when they’re in a culture with a lot of different subcultures that haven’t made up their minds yet. We all hear the stories of the economists who start by assuming perfect rationality, and then add in deviations from that assumption when they come to them.
This last principle is generally known as “therapeutic neutrality”, and it demands that we not take sides in our patients’ disputes or dilemmas.I mean, Steve’s argument about the contract isn’t bad, but if it were something we disagreed with – let’s say some old-timey marriage contract where the woman vowed to always serve and obey her husband, and now she’s a feminist and wants out – we would probably be pretty sympathetic despite the precise wording of what she’d “agreed” on. I’m not personally very good at feeling jealous, so wanting your husband to never go to a club, even if he doesn’t tell you about it, or make you think about it, or even agrees only to do it when you’re away on a business trip in another city – seems a bit odd.Honestly I would be tempted to take Steve aside and ask him whether he’s sure that he couldn’t deal with Adam going to this club, and whether maybe he wants to give it a chance, and whether maybe he just wants what’s best for Adam even if that makes him a little uncomfortable. I recently did couples therapy with two gay men who’d gotten married a year or so ago.Since then one of them, let’s call him Adam, decided he was bored with his sex life and went to a club where they did some things I will not describe here.