Deadly dating patterns
No woman is the mask you place on her before you get to know her.Learning to control your fear of rejection will greatly reduce this self-sabotaging attitude of pre-judgement.With some basic awareness you can begin to develop more useful behaviors, positive and effective attitudes towards dating and women, and redevelop your internal foundations of self and acceptance. You’d be amazed at how well a woman will react to a guy who’s really nervous, but who’s also really sincere, sweet, and funny. It’s easier to judge her in advance of her judging us.No woman is the mask she wears when she s in public.
Often, when we feel nervous about the possible rejection from a beautiful girl, we ll start acting slightly differently than we usually do. This might make you sound like the cheesy pickup-line guy, or possibly the arrogant business man who s always bragging about his work.
– If she doesn t like me that means my friends will tease me. Except that “thinking” is slow and often ruins the spontaneity of a sincere interaction with a woman.
– If she doesn t like me that means it ll be awkward every time I see her at work. Sometimes thinking can’t compete with the speed of intuition and experience.
In one moment you feel compelled to talk to that cute little blonde who’s sitting alone, and the next second you’re wondering how it all went so horribly wrong. Let s see maybe she s the type who s really into tall guys let s see if she looks over here This scenario ends with the girl walking away before the dude get s out of his head long enough to engage her.
– If she doesn t like me that means others will laugh at me. I know many guys like this, who are simply too smart for their own good, and who simply believe they can think their way into her pants.