Dating me for money
Older people are ideal targets because they often have accumulated savings over a lifetime, own their homes and are susceptible to being deceived by someone intent on fraud.Most victims say they are embarrassed to admit what happened, and they fear that revealing it will bring derision from their family and friends, who will question their judgment and even their ability to handle their own financial affairs.“That would ruin my reputation in my community,” said a woman from Pensacola, Fla., who spoke on condition of anonymity.Three weeks into a relationship that began in 2013, he told Ms.Davies that he had been robbed by a man on a bicycle and asked her to send him money.“I debated for a long time, but I wanted to help him,” she said.She lost 2,000, she said, to a man she met online in late 2013, but she has kept it secret from her family and friends. Brown, 68, a nurse in a pediatrician’s office in Burlington, Vt., also hid the fact she had been defrauded online.
Victims who are looking for romance but find online criminals instead should alert authorities, he said.“It’s imperative for someone who thinks they have been scammed to move quickly and notify the bank and law enforcement authorities,” he said. Despite warnings, the digital version of the romance con is now sufficiently widespread that AARP’s Fraud Watch Network in June urged online dating sites to institute more safeguards to protect against such fraud.
She noted, however, that con artists “have the ability to hide or mask their I. addresses using various services and software available to hide their true location and bypass our security checks.”The lure of romance swindlers can be hard to resist, said Ms. “It makes me sound so stupid, but he would be calling me in the evening and at night. We had plans to go to the Bahamas and to Bermuda together.“When I found out it was a scam, I felt so betrayed.
I kept it secret from my family for two years, but it’s an awful thing to carry around.
Even so, he admitted, “The chances are not great of seeing that money again.”While some swindlers are local, others are part of international crime rings and are more difficult to track, although, Mr. The safeguards it suggests include using computer algorithms to detect suspicious language patterns, searching for fake profiles, alerting members who have been in contact with someone using a fake profile and providing more education so members are aware of romance cons.
The AARP network recommends that from the beginning, dating site members use Google’s “search by image” to see if the suitor’s picture appears on other sites with different names.