Dating emotionally abusive man
They've already planned a future once, thought seriously about life. They may just be looking to fill a void and not ready for true emotional intimacy.You really need to find out when the marriage ended, when the divorce was FINAL and why it didn't work out, as well as his dating history since the divorce. I am single, never been married or engaged, and I don't have a kid. I don't like them for the money, I just always found older men charming, sexy, felt attracted to them. My divorced relationships did not work out..I still don't think that a divorced guy would necessarily be trouble, and I would probably date divorcees in the future. I think if you are a woman who likes her men a little older you will probably be more likely to like divorced men.His marriage may have made him bitter and you may be the one to suffer. As the girlfriend you will always feel in a sense threatened by her. If he ended bitterly with her you always have to be better than her.If he has trust issues he may take them out on you. If he loved her a lot and she hurt him you may worry he will never like you as much or that he really wants her and not you.He may have been taught to or encouraged to toughen up by his father.He may have experienced trauma that he bottled up over a lifetime, which can make being vulnerable again a challenge.
Honestly he probably will compare in his mind, we all do, but to verbalize it is a whole new issue. But other times he could just be permanently scarred from the marriage.If he can say what he did wrong without any blame or hostility, that says a lot about his character and ability to grow and mature from experience.Because the reason many divorcees fail in later relationships is that they haven't learned from their past, about what THEY need to change about themselves, between who to choose as a partner and how to make a relationship work.My point is: you don’t know why these emotionally unavailable men are the way they are.The best you can do is to look for signs that the man you’re in a relationship with or just starting to date may be one more on your long list of emotionally unavailable men.